An Interview with Stephanie Fry, Author of “The IVF Journal”

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Stephanie Fry: professional colleague, devoted author, a dear friend. A mom after infertility who gets it, who understands exactly how painful the infertility journey can be. There are lots of awesome ways to describe Stephanie Fry and I'm so lucky that I've gotten to know her personally over the years. Her true labor of love, The IVF Journal, ... [Read on...]

Unlocking a Story

I Should Write a Book

"You should write a book, Keiko." I get this. A lot. Thing is, I would very much like to write a book. I know several wonderful folks who have in fact, written books. Like Mel (who's got a new book out this week!), Lori, Carolyn, and Pamela. Like Aprill, Krissi and Fran. Like Kristen, Stephanie and my other pal named Pamela. It's ... [Read on...]

The Search for My Egg Donor: The Katie Show’s Feel Good TV With Not So Good Labels

Katie Show Search For My Egg Donor

Did you catch Wednesday's episode of the Katie Show? No, I wasn't on it.* But the first half of the show was entitled "The Search for My Egg Donor" and focused on a young, remarkably poised 16-year old, Brittan Gilmore, reuniting with her mother's egg donor, JoLana. Here's a clip with their story (an ad might play before the ... [Read on...]

The Letter the Clinic Sent Us

This is that part about infertility - parenting afterward or otherwise - that you don't hear so much about. We have enclosed this letter as a reminder that you currently have embryos frozen and stored... It is our hope that you will choose to use these frozen embryos in the near future. We recognize, however, that many of our patients would ... [Read on...]

In Defense of the Duggars… Again


This is not my first post about the Duggars and I suspect it probably won't be the last, either. "I bet my mom wished she'd had infertility! I'm one of nine children." Someone actually said this to me, to my face, four years ago. I was in then-Senator Kerry's office at my first Advocacy Day for RESOLVE. There were two advocate groups ... [Read on...]

These are for you.


(I hope you like tulips.) According to a 2010 report from the National Retail Federation, Mother's Day is second-most popular holiday for fresh flower purchases, behind Christmas. People will spend $1.9 billion on flowers for Mother's Day. That's billion with a b. If I could buy you all flowers today, I would. These are for the ... [Read on...]

#IFAdvocacy Storify: Highlights from Advocacy Day 2014

Advocacy Day 2014

With 154 advocates and 160 appointments, there was a lot happening all over the Hill! G-d bless social media, amirite? Here's my Storify with a recap of highlights from the day. Enjoy! (Of course, if you want to read my very awesome highlight story of meeting Senator Elizabeth Warren in person, head here.) Highlights from the Hill [View the ... [Read on...]

I Met Senator Elizabeth Warren! (My Advocacy Day 2014)

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My calves ache. Even though I brought two extra pairs of comfortable shoes, schlepping miles back and forth between congressional offices did a number on me. Totally worth it. #IFAdvocacy Day was simply incredible. It felt amazing to be back on Capitol Hill for my third Advocacy Day after a year off. 154 advocates. 27 states. 160 congressional ... [Read on...]

High heels on a marble floor.


Ain't nothing like it, folks. Clik-clak, clik-clak. A shimmy of the hips with each step. The feeling of your heel as it strikes the unforgiving stone. Clik-clak, clik-clak. A cavernous, echoing sound in the marble hallways. Feeling not just the weight of your own steps, but the steps of those who've walked these halls a lot longer than you ... [Read on...]

Resolve to Know More About… The Resolving Without Parenting Option


For my final "Resolve to Know More..." interview, I'm so pleased to welcome Pamela Mahoney Tsigdinos, author of Silent Sorority. Today's topic is resolving without parenting. I feel like people are quick to write this off as an option, but the truth is, not everyone with infertility ends up parenting. I feel like this particular option doesn't get ... [Read on...]