Surviving Surprise Christmas Pregnancy Announcements

Christmas and New Year's is often a time when many couples and families announce happy news: perhaps they're getting engaged, or perhaps they're expecting. When you're dealing with infertility, these surprises, particularly pregnancy announcements, can be especially painful. Here's what you can do to prepare yourself emotionally and cope when unexpected news arrives. Read the rest at » ... Read on »

When Infertility Lasts Longer Than You’d Hoped

When you receive a diagnosis of infertility after trying to get pregnant for some time, unfortunately, it doesn't come with a guarantee that you'll be able to parent or, if you do, how long that might take. Here are some strategies to consider if your infertility journey is taking longer than you anticipated. Read the rest at » ... Read on »

A Wave of Light for Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day

October 15th is recognized as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day each year around the globe. One of the focal points of this day of awareness and remembrance is an international "wave of light." This unique and poignant grieving and memorial ritual for bereaved parents allows those who mourn the loss of their child to pregnancy loss or stillbirth. Read the rest at » ... Read on »

“Remember Me” and the Days of Awe

Photo by Keiko Zoll.

For Jews around the globe, including myself, we exist now in a perilous time of year known as Yamim Noraim - the Days of Awe. The ten days in between the start of Rosh HaShanah, the Jewish New Year, and the end of Yom Kippur, the Jewish Day of Atonement, constitute the holiest days of the year for us. We are in a precarious state: G-d opens the Book of Life on Rosh HaShanah and closes it at sunset at the end of Yom Kippur. In it, G-d writes who shall be born and who shall die, who by fire, ... Read on »

These are for you.


(I hope you like tulips.) According to a 2010 report from the National Retail Federation, Mother's Day is second-most popular holiday for fresh flower purchases, behind Christmas. People will spend $1.9 billion on flowers for Mother's Day. That's billion with a b. If I could buy you all flowers today, I would. These are for the someday moms. These are for the waiting arms. These are for the birth mothers. These are for the once a mother. These are for the finally ... Read on »

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Howdy folks! Did you know I write for as their Infertility Expert? I feel like I completely forgot to announce this here and just slapped up the badge on my sidebar without any context! I've been writing for since May and have published 45 articles so far. I wanted to feature just a quick roundup of posts; I'm hoping to do an roundup monthly with some of my favorite articles. Check 'em out, leave a comment and share if you find them ... Read on »

Eat, Drink and Be Merry – Or Don’t: An Infertility Holiday Survival Guide

Surviving Infertility and the Holidays

In case you missed it, the rush for the end of year holidays has begun. I find, that for the life of the infertile, that dash begins right around Hallowe'en, although Back to School season has begun creeping in on this territory, too. From Hallowe'en it's practically light warp speed straight to Christmas. Forget Thanksgiving. That poor bastard of a holiday's been left in the dust. And Hanukkah? Well... we get our seasonal endcaps filled with gelt, blue and silver decorations, and cheap ... Read on »

An announcement, a proposal, a prayer and a promise.

I have been writing this post, over and over and over, trying best to figure out just how I was going to phrase my words to you today. There's so much I want to say, so I imagine this will be a wordy post. I figured the best way to get through it all was to break it down into four parts: an announcement, a proposal, a prayer and a promise. 1. An announcement. I know you have all been eagerly waiting all weekend for my beta results, many of you leaving comments at my Facebook page or some ... Read on »

11dp3dt: Pulling in the Oars

pull in your oars. trust the river. it will be okay.

A Wise Woman once told me: sometimes, you have to pull in your oars and let the river take you where it wants to go. You have to let go of that control and instead be carried by - and ultimately, trust - the Universe. There is no amount of wishing, praying, begging or bargaining that will change what's happening in my womb. I cannot use magical thinking to produce stunning beta results on Thursday. Nature and/or G-d has already made that decision. Tomorrow's beta is simply the ... Read on »