What IF: Three Years Later

"Everything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end."

This was me three years ago: I's funny to go back and watch this video, to think about all the things that are different in my life now. The fact that we own a home instead of living in student housing where this was filmed. The three pairs of glasses I've gone through since then. Remembering, very distinctly, getting sushi with a friend after Larry and I shot this on Boston Common - and now that friend is due with her first child this August. The pain I was in at the time I made this ... Read on »

Join the Movement for National Infertility Awareness Week

National Infertility Awareness Week 2013

National Infertility Awareness Week is coming... are you ready? More importantly, are you ready to Join the Movement this year? NIAW has always had a special place in my heart. It's when I first "came out" about my infertility to a larger group of friends and colleagues, just over a month after I was first diagnosed in 2009. In 2010, it served as the springboard for my What IF video that would later go on to be recognized by RESOLVE at the Hope Awards that year. In fact, NIAW means ... Read on »

Love, Sex and Rock n’ Roll: Happy Valentine’s Day.


We're not usually big celebrators of Valentine's Day in our house. For several years when Larry and I were dating, I was often performing in a production of The Vagina Monologues. Since getting married, our anniversary (five years this year, folks!) falls at the end of January and usually steals the romantic spotlight first thing each year. We decided that it was time to formalize our Valentines' observance, so we settled on the possible exchange of cards and the definite exchange of ... Read on »

Infertility is the Most Painful Journey of Self-Discovery You’ll Ever Take

Infertility is the Most Painful Journey of Self-Discovery You'll Ever Take

I was selfish, fickle, flighty and distracted four years ago. I still am, but the difference today, four years later, is that I recognize these qualities about myself now. I am also brave, strong, bold and empowered. If you told me four years ago I would one day say that about myself, I would have laughed in your face. "I'm nothing," I would have said. "I'm broken. I'm a failure. I have no idea what tomorrow is even going to look like, let alone feel bold or empowered." That's how I ... Read on »

Inroducing Biweekly Social Media Chats with The Infertility Voice!

Join me every 1st and 3rd Friday of the month!

In an effort to connect with you more throughout the year, I'm launching biweekly social media chats! I originally wanted to do a biweekly Twitter chat, but realized that not all of you are on Twitter. To make sure everyone who wants to participate can, I decided to switch it off between Twitter and Facebook. So you can think of them as biweekly chats or monthly Twitter and monthly Facebook chats ;) My goals in organizing these chats are so that you can: a) get to hang out with me twice a ... Read on »

Behind and Beyond: Reflections on the Brink of a New Year

Happy New Year from The Infertility Voice

I love New Year's Eve. It's such a precarious, if invented demarcation between the old and the new, the past and the future, a sliver of the present in transition. For many, it's the tabula rasa, the turn of the wheel, a moment of both ending and beginning. How fitting that Janus, the two-faced Roman god who faces both his past and future, should be the inspiration for the month of January. I've reflected on 2012 through my blog posts, but it's hard to encapsulate and reflect on my year just ... Read on »

The Infertility Voice: 2012’s Greatest Hits

What a year, folks! It's hard to believe that we're ready to kiss 2012 goodbye and ring in the new year in just a week. Even though it hasn't yet been a full year here at this website, it's been an incredible ten months here all the same, and I have each of you to thank for that! 2012 has been a year of experimenting: finding out what works here and what doesn't, what you want and what you need. Come 2013, I'm hoping to hone that even further with some new events and services to offer to ... Read on »

Say Hello to My New Blog: TeamZoll.com!

Go Team Zoll!

Before you panic: no, I'm not getting rid of The Infertility Voice. Promise! I've been contemplating starting a new blog for some time now, as I've felt uncomfortable about posting anything related very specifically to my pregnancy here at The Infertility Voice, because I know how hard it can be to read. It's been getting cumbersome to maintain them on a separate page here in my blog and folks have complained because any posts tagged "My Pregnancy" don't automatically appear in people's RSS ... Read on »

Act Now to Help The Family Act & The Adoption Tax Credit

I've Called, Have You?

Congress is back in session, after their nice long holiday break. Now is the perfect time to call them up and let them know that hey: infertility matters and the 7.3 million Americans living with infertility could use their legislative help. "But Keiko," I hear you saying, "It's a lame duck session." True. But just because a good chunk of these folks might be on their way out at the end of the year doesn't mean they still don't have a TON of work to do before then. Like, yanno - that whole ... Read on »

#GivingTuesday: Highlighting Important Infertility Organizations All Day!

Giving Tuesday at The Infertility Voice

Today is Giving Tuesday. Following on the heels of Black Friday, Small Business Saturday and Cyber Monday, Giving Tuesday seeks to turn that holiday spending power into holiday giving power by focusing on organizations and non-profits making a difference in our communities. For this Giving Tuesday, I'm highlighting infertility-related non-profits all day today who are doing incredible work for this community and could use your financial help. Whether you can give $5 or $50, every dollar ... Read on »